How to Know if You Should Ask Someone on a Second Date

How to Know if You Should Ask Someone on a Second Date When we look back at our worst first dates, the not-so-scientific reason why there welchesnt a second date is that someone was not the best version of themselves. Your date could have been totally drunk or maybe they literally stunk, failing two of the six tests that relationship experts advise your date passes the first time you meet them.Which tests should everyone pass on a first date to make it worth a second? From drinking to dealing with the check, these tests will help you figure out if its worth it to see them again.1. The alcohol testMeeting up with your date over happy hour? While many people opt for a glass of liquid courage on a first date to help take the edge off, drinking excessively probably presents a less than flattering version of your date.2. The hygiene testSmelly breath on the first date gets a polite handshake at best at the end of the night. If it seems like it has been days, plural, since your date last s howered or did any laundry, its probably not a great idea to see them again.3. The all about me testTalking about yourself on a date is fine. However, talking about yourself exclusively without attempting to learn mora about the other person is definitely a dealbreaker.If the entire date is a running monologue on the dates life without a single question about you, its a sign that theyll be less likely to want to know more or care about whats going on with you, says Kayla Lords, sex-pert at Jack and Jill Adult. Lords also advises being on alert for dates that constantly interrupt you. This is an act they should make an effort to stop on their own, even if they did ask an interesting question.If youre unable to get in a word, theyre likely to do it every time you speak.4. The ex testThe ex files may be brought up as soon as the first date, especially if youre looking to get into a serious relationship quickly. Mary J. Gibson, relationship expert at DatingXP, says to watch what your da te says about their past relationships. Do they badmouth their ex or look like theyre on the verge of tears? According to Gibson, this might mean your date still harbors residual feelings and may not be ready for something serious with you.Breakup and dating coach Cherlyn Chong agrees that a date that is visibly bitter when discussing their ex isnt ready for a relationship. Its highly likely that due to unresolved past baggage you would be treated just like their exes, too.An ideal date is someone who has grown from their negative experiences, not become a victim, Chong says.5. The little annoyances testPay attention to how your date behaves around wait staff if theres a mistake with their dinner order, or if how they react to a concert not starting on time. Lords says that how your date handles minor annoyances provides you with better insight into their personality. If your date blows up or gets disproportionately angry, thats a dealbreaker. Check please.